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Sunday, February 28, 2016

What’s The Best Way To Meet Your Neighbors?

This does sound like a fun way to meet new neighbors. I need to try this myself. The problem is there is a little monster inside of me. His name is Social Anxiety. Every time I try to meet new people, he comes out and messes everything up! Either I wind up saying the wrong thing when I meet a new person, or I don't say what I should in time, or I just don't say anything at all and walk away. I'm not meaning to be unfriendly, it's just that's the way it always seems to work out. I have tried everything to push him out of the way so I can meet new people. But people tend to scare me in general. It's always in the back of my mind, what if I screw up? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I walk up to this person and they just walk away and don't want to say hi? There have been cases in the past where I have said hello to someone and they turned out to be very unfriendly and just told me to fuck off. After an incident like that, it's hard to build up that trust again to approach anyone else in that sort of friendly manner. It feels like I am a gazelle trying to make friends with a hyena.

There is also another monster inside of me, a much more welcome one (to me). Though I like this monster, other people tend to not want to invite him to their parties when they get to know him. His name is Brutal Honesty. He comes out at the cost of political correctness. I admit, I am not a politically correct person! I don't believe in that shit. I think political correctness is for wussies. Everything is there for a reason. Of course there are some things I know not to do because they would be uncivilized. But I am full of blatant honesty, and a lot of people find that to be uncomfortable, mostly because they have been lied to all their lives. But I lie to no one. Either how I feel will show up on my face, or I'll flat-out tell you how I feel. I have lost friends over the years because of this monster, but that is not as bad as it may sound. A couple of sayings that spring to mind is one I heard was quoted from John Lennon, and he said "Being honest won't get you a lot of friends, but it'll sure get you the right ones." If a person cannot handle you being honest with them, then they are weak-spirited. Imagine what having that person as a friend would be like!! They're not a real friend IMO. Another favorite saying is "Be who you are and say what you feel because the people who matter don't mind and the people who mind don't matter."

Plus, I have a serious passionate hatred of radicals, and there are too many radicals in the world! Like I said in my last video, the unfortunate thing about making friends with people sight-unseen is that you don't really know who they are. They could be radicals posing as friendly people online. And you have to weed-out the fanatics in order to find your real friends. If you don't have a thick skin (like I do) it can be devastating. Even discouraging. Though I don't let the internet define my real life. My problems with trust stem back to my childhood (before the internet). I was bullied mercilessly because I was this shy kid, and once I would start talking, would very often say the wrong things. Or do the wrong things. Face it, I was a dumb kid. But I was a survivor! I made it this far. I've about reached the status of being a hermit, but I made it to my 40s!

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